Avoid doing these 5 things if you want to be successful in life
This particular write-up lays emphasis on five things you should never start in your life if you want to accomplish success in your life.
1. Doubting yourself. There is no point to doubt your abilities. Either you can do it or you can’t, but either way life moves on. If you cannot do it, you will find something different to do, and if you can do it well then you can and there is nothing to worry about either! The point is that life will go on for you until the moment it does not, whether you believe in yourself or not. So you might as well get that very core belief that you will figure things out in the end; one way or another.
2. Blaming others for your misfortune. Worst case scenario: They actually are to blame. But if that is true, what good will it do you to blame them? What good will pointing the finger do? It will not make things better now. You can definitely ask others to help or look for solutions to your current misfortune, but you can do that without blaming them. You cannot change that retroactively. But you can change where you will be in a minute, in a day, and in a year. Focus on your action going forward. “When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” – Robert Anthony.
3. Worrying about things that are not real. So much of the fears, worries and anxieties we have every day are all only in our heads. We fear what may happen and almost always find something we never even thought of. We worry what others might think when they often have not wasted a single thought on the same.And we get anxious over so many random ghosts in our heads that are not based on even a single fact. A large part of what we experience in life is just in our heads. Make sure you grab hold of what is actually real and make a reality check. If you have not asked others what they think, you cannot know for certain. If you have not tried, you cannot know you’ll fail. And if you have not given it your all, you cannot know you won’t succeed. Make the difference between the things that are real, between the facts of life, and between what is make-believe. “One need not be a chamber to be haunted. One need not be a house. The brain has corridors surpassing material place.” – Emily Dickinson
4. Shrinking your Dreams. Meaning: If it is not what you truly want then do not ask for it. Do not hold onto a dream you do not want! You want what you want just like you like the foods you like. There is no benefit on shrinking those just to make them more realistic, because even if you get it it won’t make you happy! If you want the body of a bodybuilder, loosing 5lbs isn’t going to do anything for you. If you want to live in a mansion with 3 separate swimming pools, asking for a home with a small pond outside won’t make you truly happy. And if you want to be successful, happy, confident or whatever else you want then you want just that. Keep your dreams as big as they are and adjust your actions to fit them. Yes, it will be hard, but working for what you truly want is going to be a lot more rewarding than realizing you got what you thought you wanted and not feeling any satisfaction. “Don’t downgrade your dream to match your reality. Upgrade your faith to match your destiny.” – DeVon Franklin
5. Giving Less than your All. If you are not absolutely certain you truly tried you won’t be able to go to bed satisfied. You will keep thinking of what could have been, keep dreaming about what you could have done, and you won’t be able to take what you did do and feel proud of it. Do not do this for your dream, your partner, your family or anyone else but yourself. Give your all so you can sleep soundly at night, so that you live a good life and so that you do not live to regret the days you lived. Train until your body cannot do another repetition. Work until your mind cannot form a coherent thought. Commit fully to everything you do, invest whole-heartedly, fall far into the abyss and rise to even grander heights. “Give it your best shot. Go for it. If it’s what you really want to do, go for it. Even if you don’t make it, you will never look back and have regrets. You can always say, ‘Hey, I went for it. I tried my hardest. It was an awesome experience.’” – Carmen Rasmusen