If You See These Signs In Your Relationship, My Brother/Sister, It Is Time To Break-Up
Relationships always have their ups and downs.
It can be worth working hard with your partner to try to improve the situation.
Sometimes the problems aren’t really about you and your partner, but about outside circumstances that are putting a strain on your relationship things like money worries, trouble at work, a lost job, or arguments with family.
Yes, you can come out of the other side of a bad patch feeling closer than ever. But that doesn’t mean that you and/or your partner should spend years of your lives feeling unhappy all the time.
So sometimes a break-up is the best option.
When is it time to break up?
It’s tough to know if it’s really time to break up with your partner.
Here are a few signs that it’s time to break up and move on:
1. You’re in an abusive or controlling relationship.
2. One of you cheated on the other and you both realise it’s over.
3. You’ve lost interest in spending time with your partner.
4. Your relationship has changed a lot since you first started being together, and you don’t like the way things are going.
5. You fight a lot with your partner. These fights keep happening even though you’ve tried talking out the underlying problems properly.
6. You find it hard to be yourself in the relationship.
7. You find it difficult to talk to your partner.
8. You’ve started keeping secrets from your partner or have discovered that your partner is keeping secrets from
9. You and your partner find yourselves having to say ‘sorry’ too often.
10. It’s been a long time since you said ‘I love you’ to each other.
11. You haven’t had sex in a long time.
12. You lack the energy, drive, or motivation to make up to your partner.
13. When one person is always putting in 99.9% of the effort and the other person is consistently giving .1% this is a one-sided relationship.
14. Your first priority is to be happy. And if you’re not happy, it’s a clear sign then things are not right. How will you know? You’re feeling down regularly, you’re being more and more seclusive, and you don’t enjoy doing your regular routines.
If you feel the negativity is pervasive enough that you can’t pinpoint where it’s coming from, it’s also a good idea to talk to a trusted friend, counselor.
15. You’re doing all the sacrificing
Every relationship requires sacrifice. This can be a healthy way to show each other your love and support. If you find yourself constantly giving everything for your partner without the gesture being reciprocated, it can create a power imbalance that breeds long term unhappiness and resentment.
16. You fight nonstop. While disagreements are an inevitable part of being a couple, you shouldn’t feel like you’re always waiting for the next explosion. Unresolved conflicts that turn disrespectful and demeaning over time can severely affect your emotional well-being. Ask yourself whether you’re both finding a new reason to argue every day. If the answer is yes, it may be time for you to part ways.
17. You think about breaking up all the time. Wondering whether to stay together every once in a while is normal. It’s when you can’t stop thinking about being apart that you should worry. Being with someone shouldn’t be a continuous struggle of hoping for the other person to change. If you can’t imagine growing older with them as they are right now, it’s probably time to throw in the towel.
18. The relationship is moving much faster than you want. Decided to move into together but you know you don’t really want to? Meeting the family, but you never really wanted to go in the first place?
These might be signs that you don’t want to be in the relationship.